From Spiritual Seasonings: A Life Recipe Book by Lola Wilcox
Reality is a canvas, we are the brush; we are free to paint any view of reality we want. Anything is possible. Reality is moving and, like the planet, only rarely in perfect balance. Reality is formed, unformed, reformed; it’s interactive, interrelated, and interdependent. This is how God gave us Free Will. It is our gift, not to be rescinded or denied. The Universe is Freedom Playground.
Of course, there are a few real constraints by the planet herself: gravity for one, diversity of expression of life another. Step in an ant pile and be bitten. Twice a year the planet comes into balance, equal times of dark and light.
Be still and know
That day and night
That dark and light
Are one holy circle.
—song sung at Brother Timothy Frantzich Perfection Free Singing
But mostly we limit ourselves, and mostly create constraints out of fear or pride. I thought about adding greed as well, but believe greed is born in a fear of not having enough.
And as it is for an individual, so it is for a family or town, congregation or country. Winston Churchill said “We create our institutions, and then they create us.” We maintain our realities long past their usefulness, the reasoning behind the constraints lost in the passage of time.
Isolated, Closed or Open Options
A person’s reality can be a closed, open or isolated system. Isolated cultures, family systems, individuals reject the new, and defend against change at all costs. They drift away from any opportunity for balance. A closed system puts a lid on the environment, allowing exchange within itself, but limiting outside input.
When we catch a glimpse of another world-view we may fear that to accept it would mean undoing everything we understand ourselves to be, that we might become “converted” and need to change our way of life entirely. It often is easier, at least for a time, to continue as we are than to undertake any reconstruction of our definition of reality. We are choosing to become a closed or even isolated individual.
When in an open system, person, family, and culture explores current reality as something that is being shaped and changed, and that is desirable. Or is at least discussible. A healthy individual or culture considers what of past reality wants to be kept and brought forward. And multiple futures are researched and explored with the hope of choosing a balanced path forward.
In terms of the Hero/Heroine’s Journey my husband suggests the exploration of past and current reality happens in the Temenos, after the Nigredo transformation. Individuals (and cultures) are on the way to the Gate Out, and putting in place what will be needed to stay in balance when they return to their Home, a home they have redefined in their Journey.
What is Real in a Relative World?
If everything is subject to change, how do we know what is real? How do we know what choices to make?
Some definitions may help:
- The word real is defined as “something that has an objective existence, is tangible.”
- To realize or to have a realization is “the act of becoming or making real.”
- The word relative is defined as “relating or referring to, having a mutual relationship, connected to, having a relationship to the matter at hand.”
- Relativity is “the fact or condition of being relative.”
- The word relate as a verb means “to tell the story.”
When we say “I realize I am loved,” we are saying love is tangible, and has an objective existence in our lives. It’s the energy that is real. And we often express our knowledge by relating a story, so the listener can experience the energy as well.
One can also say “I realize I am hated”, and that hate is tangible, and evidenced in murder, or living with constant caustic, cynical remarks, being unable to work to the level of one’s education, etc. To be hated is to be Objectified and cease to be seen, heard, experienced as a person (or wolf or forest or river or sea or farmland or neighbor…).
Northern Vernal/Spring Equinox is a Balance Time